Inclusive LGBTQ+ Language
By Mo Abdullah of Culture Energized
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Why It Matters: Using Inclusive Language
Using inclusive language ensures that you don’t misgender, exclude, or demean others in the workplace or conversations. Making these simple swaps is just one way to show allyship and solidarity to the LGBTQ+ community. Scroll down to see the steps for how to make your language more inclusive.
Making Assumptions
Curiosity is normal; however, it is essential to remember that the LGBTQ+ experience is vast and diverse. Due to the significant discrimination and lack of representation LGBTQ+ individuals face, relying on stereotypes can lead to harm. Avoid stereotypical comments like, “Wow, you don’t look trans,” and instead take the time to listen and learn about the individual in front of you.
2. Gender-Neutral Language
Most of our everyday language assumes there are only two genders (a binary system of genders). For example, a word like “guys” can seem harmless and insignificant. However, it can become problematic when speaking to a gender-diverse group. When welcoming people to your next meeting or event, try “Welcome folks, people, everyone, or team.”
3. Pronouns Are Not Preferred
Asking about a person’s “preferred” pronouns can come off as an optional request. Even though this line of questioning is meant to be thoughtful, it can deter from the fact that pronouns are an extension of who they are. “What pronouns do you use?” or “What are your personal pronouns?”
4. Embrace Diverse Relationships
Heterosexual (straight) relationships may be common, but they are not the norm. Using language such as “wife,” “husband,” or “Mom and Dad” often excludes non-heterosexual relationships. Instead, swap out this language with “Partner,” “Parents,” or “Guardian” to be more inclusive of LGBTQ relationships.
5. Respecting Non-Binary People
Non-binary includes anyone that doesn’t fit the traditional narrative of male and female. This can make the common restroom trip rather uncomfortable and stressful. Use signage and language to make the restroom experience more inclusive. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. Try, “If the door closes behind you, use it.”
6. Making Mistakes And Moving Forward
We all make mistakes. If you make a misstep - such as using someone’s deadname (the name they were called before transitioning) or using a wrong pronoun - correct yourself, apologize, and move on.
Mariam (Mo) Abdullah is the Founder of Culture Energized and an experienced certified trainer and entrepreneur. Originally from Atlanta, Georgia, Mo has worked with over 60 schools and organizations across the U.S in creating positive culture through professional development trainings. In addition, she has over 5 years experience working in the education and non profit sector servicing over 2,500 students, teachers and professionals on social emotional learning, group management and youth leadership. With her electrifying facilitation style, she has been able to impact diverse groups of people while shining light on the issues that matter!
